What I Said to Someone Who Might Become More

Out of nowhere — without overthinking, without planning, without trying to sound wise — I found myself saying something to a friend who has quietly become more than a friend.

Someone who is still just beginning to enter my life… but somehow sits in my chest like he’s been here before.

We were texting, and I wrote:

“I honor what is.”

“Consistency, presence, and what is real guides everything.”

I didn’t think about it.

It moved through me — the way truth always does when I’m not trying to protect myself.

Because this is the space I’m in now:

I don’t chase potential.

I don’t force timing.

I don’t cling to illusions.

I don’t bargain with God.

I don’t let fear narrate my imagination.

I honor what is.

And “what is” is the only place where real connection, real intimacy, real love, and real soul growth can happen.

Not in fantasy.

Not in fear.

Not in the stories we write when we panic about losing something.

Not in the projections we create when we’re afraid of disappointment.

Just… what is.

The present moment.

The actual energy between two people — not the imagined version.

The older I get, the more I realize:

Consistency reveals character.

Presence reveals intention.

Realness reveals alignment.

Everything else is noise.

Because here’s a secret no one tells you:

People can say all the right things.

They can future-talk you.

They can mirror your desires.

They can perform closeness.

But consistency?

Presence?

And what is real?

Those things can’t be faked — not for long.

They reveal who someone actually is, not who they pretend to be when they want you, or fear losing you, or are trying to win you over.

And more importantly…

They reveal who you are when you’re not trying to perform your worth.

When you stop gripping, stop chasing, stop anxiously scanning for signs…

You meet the truth of your life as it is.

You meet the truth of the person in front of you as they are.

You meet the truth of your own energy.

And truth has never harmed me.

Only the denial of truth has.

When I honor what is, I stop contaminating the moment with old wounds.

I stop punishing new connections with past experiences.

I stop projecting abandonment where there is simply a pause.

I stop reading silence as rejection instead of regulation.

I stop confusing slow warmth for disinterest.

I stop demanding certainty from someone who’s learning to open too.

And something shifts…

The fear loosens.

God gets louder.

My intuition becomes clean again.

My nervous system softens.

My femininity returns to its seat.

My heart stops racing and starts listening.

Because consistency doesn’t lie.

Presence doesn’t lie.

What is real doesn’t lie.

And when someone shows up — repeatedly, steadily, in their own imperfect but unmistakable way — that’s when you know you can relax into the moment… without making it mean forever.

I’m not looking for a fairytale.

I’m looking for alignment.

And alignment doesn’t rush.

Alignment doesn’t panic.

Alignment doesn’t chase.

Alignment doesn’t future-trip.

Alignment doesn’t contort.

Alignment feels like this:

A gentle yes.

A calm body.

A quiet confidence.

A soft opening.

A grounded curiosity.

A sober kind of hope.

A desire to experience the next moment — not define the whole timeline.

And honestly?

That’s where I am.

Letting the genuine moments guide me.

Letting God guide me.

Letting my body tell me what’s safe.

Letting presence, consistency, and realness be the only compass I trust.

Because I’ve done the other versions —the fantasy, the future-tripping, the fear-chasing, the anxious decoding.

And none of them ever brought me closer to love.

They only dragged me farther from myself.

So now?

I honor what is.

And strangely enough…

“What is” is turning out to be more beautiful, more honest, and more grounded than anything I ever tried to force.

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With an open heart,

Karen Di Gloria 💞

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